As I was taking off all the passwords from my old posts, I came across this one…
My have times changed.
“Scott” was one of my best friends. After I left the church I never heard his voice again. I have never seen his face. And he only live(d) 1 mile from my house.
Apparently he became a leader in the church in my absence. I think this would have been a good thing considering how progressive him and his wife were. But alas, his wife and my wife had major issues getting along.
The last I saw of her, she gave my wife a long hug on our last day. It was a nice gesture, considering they didn’t get along well. That same day I sent Scott’s wife a message saying how I appreciated playing music with her every week at church (which I really did), and that I’ll miss playing with her. She replied in kind.
I reached out to Scott twice on Facebook. Begging him to hang out sometime. Nothing came of it. Only the slightest interest was ever communicated.
I stayed friends with him on Facebook until a month ago. I finally gave up and just unfriended him Facebook. It hurt like hell. He lived a mile away from me, I often passed his house in the morning. But nothing.
He just moved away last week. His house is still on the market, vacant. I miss him dearly.
Apparently the church went through a massive split after they hired my replacement. While Scott and his wife were initially in favor of the new pastor, rumor has it they didn’t get along for long. That sucks.
Scott was a good man.
I struggle with wanting to reach out to him and explain how he hurt me. He’s the kind of guy that would feel bad about it. But what’s the use? He lives 400 miles way now.
I still have only 2 irl friends who live near me, I could use a few more.
Carter, on the other hand…
His wife has a play date scheduled with my wife and kids. They were good people too, not very strong people, some might say fearful even. Going with the flow, not wanting to rock the boat. But they, in spite of the conservatism, were kind people. Out of all my former church friends (save Paul) he is the only one to actually reach out to me to check in on us.
I’m not sure how to be friends with them, but it might be good for us to try it out.