Patrons already have access to my Facebook profile, so last Wednesday night a bunch of you saw me post this:
If the primary reason why you can’t be friends with someone is because they don’t share your belief system anymore, then you have a shitty belief system.
And if the primary reason why you can’t be friends with someone is because their husband no longer believes in God, then you’re a shitty person.
I wrote that…after Stephen left…at the bar…about 8 drinks in.
What kills me is you should have seen his face before he left. I swear the guy was going to cry. He was clearly emotionally distraught.
Stephen: I’m going to miss you and our friendship
The Friendly Facebook Stalker sent me this:
Stephen, under normal circumstances, is a great guy. Very thoughtful, very caring, very intellectual. He’s a good person. But his faith has made it necessary for him to be a shitbag.
He has a shitty belief system.
But what I still can’t get over is WHY THE FUCK ARE PEOPLE TREATING MY WIFE AS IF SHE BECAME AN ATHEIST?!
Me: Stephen, I really understand people hating me, feeling betrayed by me, etc. Why does this need to affect my wife in this way? She still believes, she still wants to believe, it was the church’s job to keep her in the fold, but you guys, all of you, failed. You failed to even remotely act like Jesus to my wife, WHO HAS BEEN AN INNOCENT BYSTANDER IN ALL OF THIS.
If your faith forces you to not be my friend, then you have a shitty faith.
But if you can’t even be my wife’s friend while she’s hurting and confused at what has happened to her husband, then FUCK YOU. YOU ARE NOT A GOOD PERSON. YOU ARE A NARCISSISTIC PIECE OF SHIT THAT MAKES EVERYTHING ABOUT YOURSELF.
(Goddamnit John, you’re profusely swearing again)
I even quoted the Apostle Paul to Stephen:
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility consider others better than yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.
In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus:
Who, being in very nature God,
did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage;
rather, he made himself nothing
by taking the very nature of a servant,
being made in human likeness.
And being found in appearance as a man,
he humbled himself
by becoming obedient to death—
even death on a cross!
It was the number one Bible verse I quoted as a pastor. It’s also been very clearly ignored by my wife’s ex-friends.
I made the post and unfriended him on Facebook.
So if you saw my post, you now know the story behind it.