TBWSNBN sent a message to my wife this morning
TB: Hey, do you want to grab coffee or dessert today?
Wife: No, I don’t think that’s a good idea.
TB: Why not?
Wife: Um because I don’t need more stress in my life right now. I need to surround myself with people who are supportive and will listen, and that’s not you.
TB: I am definitely here for you. I can’t support the SIN but I will support you.
If you’re new, TBWSNBN is the girl trying to out me as an atheist.
TBWSNBN actually wrote more than that but I was seeing red, furious with anger, that I couldn’t even…
I lost the ability to even.
Can anyone out there help me even?
So I came to my office this morning and tried to think of the most effective way to communicate with TBWSNBN. That was hard. I really want to tell her off. You know, exactly like what I wrote in my posts that had to be deleted.
***side note*** so in my anger I apparently swear, ummm…profusely? I noticed my buddy Drew when he posted those blogs onto the public TCP facebook page he used the words “raw” and “not for the faint of heart”. I do hope my intense anger isn’t too much of a turn off for my readers. I’ll try to swear less…on most posts. ***/sidenote***
But I need to be, well Jesus said it best:
Be as innocent as a dove and wise as a serpent
Yeah, ok. So umm, hmmmm. What to do, what to do?
This is what I came up with. This is Pastor John at his finest (if I do say so myself)
Are you familiar with the Book of Job?
It’s a great story. Everyone of course knows Job as the guy who Satan made a deal with God to destroy his family to see if would renounce God. When Job’s devastation fell upon him he had 3 friends who came and sat with him during his time of grief. For 7 days they sat around a campfire and no one said a word.
Finally after 7 days Job speaks, he starts airing his grief. But then his 3 friends quickly jump to God’s defense, trying to prove to Job that God has a reason and purpose for everything he does and what has happened to Job is Job’s fault. Job defends himself and constantly begs God to show himself to Job. Job even gets a bit obstinate and demands God tell him why all this has happened to Job.
Job’s friends are in complete outrage at Job’s arrogance. Convinced of his sin they plead, insult, and harass him to repent so that God will restore Job. Job responds:
Job 16 1
Then Job spoke again:
2 “I have heard all this before. What miserable comforters you are! 3 Won’t you ever stop blowing hot air? What makes you keep on talking? 4 I could say the same things if you were in my place. I could spout off criticism and shake my head at you. 5 But if it were me, I would encourage you. I would try to take away your grief. 6 Instead, I suffer if I defend myself, and I suffer no less if I refuse to speak. 7 “O God, you have ground me down and devastated my family. 8 As if to prove I have sinned, you’ve reduced me to skin and bones. My gaunt flesh testifies against me. 9 God hates me and angrily tears me apart. He snaps his teeth at me and pierces me with his eyes…. 20 My friends scorn me, but I pour out my tears to God. 21 I need someone to mediate between God and me, as a person mediates between friends. 22 For soon I must go down that road from which I will never return.[he means death]
Of course this angers Job’s friends, for they cannot believe Job would blame God for his troubles. So they pester him and argue more with him. They desperately want to see their friend stop uttering blasphemies about God.
God decides he’s had enough and he grants Job’s request, and meets with him face to face. God puts Job in his place. Of course God knows what he’s doing. God created the universe and Job did not, God very effectively proves that he is in all ways superior to Job. Job responds to God:
The Lord said to Job:
“Will the one who contends with the Almighty correct him? Let him who accuses God answer him!” Then Job answered the Lord:
“I am unworthy—how can I reply to you? I put my hand over my mouth. I spoke once, but I have no answer— twice, but I will say no more.”
Then Job replied to the Lord:
“I know that you can do all things; no purpose of yours can be thwarted. You asked, ‘Who is this that obscures my plans without knowledge?’ Surely I spoke of things I did not understand, things too wonderful for me to know. “You said, ‘Listen now, and I will speak; I will question you, and you shall answer me.’ My ears had heard of you but now my eyes have seen you. Therefore I despise myself and repent in dust and ashes.”
It would appear that Job’s friends were right to question Job and defend God.
Except God disagrees:
After the Lord had said these things to Job, he said to Eliphaz the Temanite, “I am angry with you and your two friends, because you have not spoken the truth about me, as my servant Job has. So now take seven bulls and seven rams and go to my servant Job and sacrifice a burnt offering for yourselves. My servant Job will pray for you, and I will accept his prayer and not deal with you according to your folly. You have not spoken the truth about me, as my servant Job has.” So Eliphaz the Temanite, Bildad the Shuhite and Zophar the Naamathite did what the Lord told them; and the Lord accepted Job’s prayer.
God was angry at Job’s friends because the words they used about God were not true, effective, or helpful. Which is weird, because when you read the arguments of Job’s friends, it looks very biblical and Christian (or at least Jewish). And yet God humbled Job’s friends, but forcing them to beg Job to pray for them that God might forgive them. God didn’t want them to pray directly to God, but rather God would only forgive them if Job agree to pray for them.
(Interesting side note: this is foreshadowing the Gospel of Christ. Where it’s through Christ sacrifice that sinners are forgiven. And also Christ is the Man of Sorrows, very Job like.)
I have felt like Job. I have that my God has crushed me. I have felt that He has left me. I have felt that my prayers have fallen on deaf ears. And I only recently discovered that I have acted like Job, demanding that God show himself to me and answer me.
But I am not Job, I am nowhere near as righteous or as faithful.
But my wife is. And you have been Job’s friends. But at least they had the decency to sit with him in his grief for 7 days before the demands and accusations started flying.
She is hurting. She feels her God is crushing her. She is striving to be the best biblical wife possible, even now. She is talking to her Father who is a very biblical man and getting advice from him. She is talking to people who have been through similar things and ended up divorced and is trying to do everything possible to maintain our “one flesh”. After all “God hates divorce” as Jesus said.
She is grieving, she is hurting and you can’t even just sit in silence with her.
You have not loved my wife. You have not supported her in the way the Bible commands it. You have been Job’s friend. Someday she will need to forgive you. But perhaps you should apologize first.But don’t take my word for it, read the Book of Job yourself.Until then do not contact my wife.I will contact you the moment Kevin emails me back.I know that was a lot to read, and probably on your phone. But I hope you read it all, especially the scriptures.