After getting to know more and more ex-christians, not just ex-pastor but ex-christians in general, I see this surprising trend of divorce. What seems to happen is that a person deconverts, stress enters into the relationship, and then a divorce happens. Now marriages are a hard and complicated thing. Sometimes two people just can’t live together and the marriage fails. Fine, I get that. That doesn’t surprise me.
What surprises me is how often this is initiated by the Christian partner.
Atheist: So let me get this straight: Because I don’t believe in God anymore, you are going to ignore God’s multiple commandments regarding how you are required to stay married to me?
Christian: Yes. I can’t deal with you ignoring Jesus so I’m going to ignore Jesus and find someone else who will ignore Jesus with me so that (s)he and I can follow Jesus together.
Do they have a hard time understanding the Bible when it says
Jesus: I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.
Apostle Paul: If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him.
Now I’m sure some of my ex-Christian/pastor friends would say
Ex-Christian: You know John, it’s actually a lot more complicated than that. It’s probably for the best that we did get divorced.
And I’m not disagreeing with you. Hey man, we’re not the ones who believe in God or the Bible. But the fact that your ex-spouse left you because you didn’t believe anymore, the heck is that about?! That is the definition of hypocrisy. They don’t actually believe in God either. Or at least not the Bible. They have a god of convenience that they make up to make themselves feel better but…
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I know…this is why we are atheists.